Monday, March 14, 2011

Grief and Joy

March 14, 2011

Saturday, March 12, 2011, I had a day that ran the gamut of emotions--from grief to jubilation.

At 2 p.m., I attended a memorial service to bid farewell to Donna Baumfeld. She was my neighbor of 3 years, a former resident of New York state, a long distance truck driver, dog and horse lover, gardener, highly opinionated, and my friend.

You always knew exactly where you stood with Donna. There was no 'everything's fine' nonsense--if you hacked her off--YOU KNEW IT. How refreshing after all the games I had been the victim of for 6 years up in these mountains.

She was a WORKER. I seldom saw her just sit down and do nothing. She got to stay home for a year a while back, and I watched her work from before sun up until she would just collapse from exhaustion. She wanted so badly to make a home for herself, her husband James, and the many dogs that shared their lives at different
times.

She loved horses madly, and the happiest I ever saw her was the day we took her and James up to 8 mile ridge and let her ride my big red paint mare, Fancy. She was like a child who just gotten everything she ever wanted for Christmas, plus an extra Barbie.

She was diagnosed with cancer, and a few weeks later, she died.

Saturday, I stood with my family, her husband, her best friend Jan and her family, and others from the mountain and surrounding area who had come to know and love her. We listened as the Methodist minister led a simple service, then we each were allowed to take some of Donna's ashes and spread them around the memorial site that Jan's son had worked so hard all week to prepare. Some cried, some stood silently. We all felt a kinship that only folks who live here in these hills can have. Beth's daughter Autumn played songs on the CD player, and the last one was "Spirit in the Sky". Old Rock & Roll, it was one of Donna's favorites.

Afterwards, Jan and her husband, Red, did up a fish fry, and we all enjoyed the fellowship of a shared friendship with a lost loved one.

After a while, my family left to attend a healing and miracle service at NEW LIFE church just outside of Wilburton, We joined our friends Crystal, Casey, and their son David, along with our church music leader Rusty and his wife Katie. We sand praise and worship songs, heard a sermon on healing and miracles, then had both Obie and David prayed over, along with others.

It was a day to remember. The beginning was a time of grief and farewell, as we dealt with the reality of death and loss. However, at day's end we felt the hope and joy as the Holy Spirit moved in our lives and showed us the reality of life in Christ.

Good bye, Donna. You will be greatly missed, but you will live on in the hearts and mins of all who were blessed to have known you.

Well, I got chores. Later ya'll.
© 2011 by Evelyn Edgett

1 comment:

  1. Dear Evelyn,

    I'm sorry to hear about your friend, but it sounds like she lived a full life with no regrets.

    Hugs,

    Marqueta

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